Why Single Women in South Jersey Fall for Bad Boys

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Are women predisposed to find bad boys more attractive? Although conventional wisdom maintains that women should beware of men who say and do the right things with too much ease, they often can’t help but to fall for them right away.  Do you happen to be one of them?

Women always have a soft spot for bad boys, and today our Cherry Hill matchmakers are going to show you why single women in New Jersey always fall for bad boys.

  1. You Don’t Think You Deserve Better

 

You know the saying that you get from the world what you put into it? Well, it’s true. If you suffer from low self-esteem and have a low sense of self-worth, you’ll put that negativity out there in the universe, and that’s exactly what you get in return.

Many women are dissatisfied with their looks and feel that they’re not good enough, which leads to falling for bad boys. Falling for men who exploit your vulnerabilities and insecurities is part of the course when you have low self-esteem, because you don’t believe you deserve any better.

  1. You Don’t Learn From Your Mistakes

 

Mistakes are learning experiences. It’s good to make mistakes in life, as they help you figure out what you want and don’t want. However, if you’re always ignoring your mistakes, then how are you ever going to learn from them?

Maybe you’re into bad boys and you will date one after the next and still be unable to figure out why dating them never works out for you. Maybe you date party guys and get upset when they get drunk at your family’s party. Maybe you go after men who are already attached and then get mad because they never leave their girlfriends. Learning from your mistakes and understanding your dating patterns is the first step towards breaking them so you can stop falling for bad boys.

  1. You Are Afraid of Being Single

 

Thanks to movies, books, TV shows and magazines – we think that being single is the worst thing in the world. To be alone is to be unloved, unappreciated, and unwanted. To be alone is to be lame, a loser, and boring. But that’s not true.

When you’re in a relationship – even if it is an unhealthy one – it can feel terrifying and intimidating to leave it and be single again.  You worry about not being able to find someone else, you worry you’re too told to start dating again, you worry that all the good guys are already taken, you worry that you won’t have time for a new relationship or that your biological clock is ticking.  Many women would rather stay with bad boys who makes them unhappy or who just aren’t right for them because the alternative has been universally accepted as worse.

  1. You Haven’t Learned How to Be Independent

 

If you happen to be like most millennials, you haven’t really had the chance to enjoy your independence just yet. Chances are you went from your parent’s house to a dorm then perhaps moved back to your parent’s house or moved in with a roommate. This can cause a lack of independence on your end because you never really got to enjoy being on your own.

We’re not saying that you need to live alone to be independent, but having a life outside of your parents/roommates/partner is very important as it helps you discover who you are as a person. Giving yourself an identity that is not linked to someone else is very important. Relationships can be comfortable, but if you’re finding yourself falling for bad boys over and over again, it might be time to address who and what it is you really want.

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