Cherry Hill Singles | 3 Reasons You Get Attached Too Quickly
Nicole, I love Jack! He’s the best thing to ever happen to me.
Um… Nicole, can I just let you know that you guys just started dating each other and have only been together for a week?
If you can relate to Nicole’s jumping into a new relationship with both feet quickly…
If you feel like every guy you date just might be “the one” after just one date…
If you ignore all the red flags that are in front of you…
Then this blog is for you!
Look, don’t give us wrong, falling in love is the most beautiful thing in the world… That is, when it happens for both partners. But if you see that your emotional attachment to men is the cause of many of your problems in life, and if you’re left brokenhearted time and time again, then it’s time to do something different in your romantic life.
Understanding the destructive patterns in your love life is the only way you can break them.
Trust us, we’ve seen so many women in New Jersey struggling to keep a man in their life – whether or not they were ever right for them – and more often than not, it’s due to one of the things we’ll discuss today.
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- You’ve dealt with abandonment in your childhood.
Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean you were left alone in the park to play by yourself.
You may have had a parent who wasn’t there when you needed them. Maybe they missed a very important soccer game where you scored the winning goal, or perhaps they never showed for your high school graduation, and you’ve harbored some resentment towards them ever since.
Maybe the abandonment was more serious.
Either way, this can definitely affect your relationships as an adult.
If you’ve dealt with abandonment issues during your childhood, you’re going to have more of a tendency to get attached to people too soon out of fear of letting them go.
- You get attracted to shiny male qualities.
Ohh, he owns a red Mercedes!
WOW, he’s the hottest guy I’ve ever dated.
It’s easy to get distracted by a guy’s superficial qualities, but be wary of those features convincing you that you are deeply in love with him. Typically, this stuff doesn’t mean anything and has nothing to do with love.
Many women find that emotional attachment happening when the guy looks good on paper. Financially stable, owns a fancy car or owns a few restaurants, has all his hair… What’s not to love about him?
You need to realize that those things aren’t qualities that make someone worthy of loving. Also realize that sometimes, the very thing you were attracted to in the beginning is what makes the relationship hard down the road.
So with our red Mercedes, restaurant-owning example, you might think this guy is hot. Plus, your friends love him and can’t stop talking him up.
But as the relationship goes on, you don’t spend much time together because he’s hyper ambitious and works 24/7. While him being a restaurateur was very attractive at first, it’s causing you to get angry every time he shows up late for a date with you.
- You are not happy on your own.
Here is yet another situation we see a lot.
So many women are unsure of how to take care of themselves emotionally, and so they desperately attach themselves to the first man who gives them attention.
Does this sound like you?
Do you constantly seek approval and happiness from men?
Do you feel incomplete when you’re not in a relationship?
Do you let someone else define your happiness?
Remember, ladies, that no one in the world is responsible for your happiness but you.
And you are 100% in control of your own happiness.
If you don’t like the situation, change your ways and become the happy-go-lucky woman you want to be.
If you’re with a guy that you like, but you find yourself trying to convince yourself he’s the one, stop right there. He’s not the one.
You will never, ever have to convince yourself he’s the one. You will feel it.
You will know.
When you give up the right to your own happiness, you give someone control over your life. You need to be happy on your own before you can be happy welcoming someone else into you life.
If you’re one of the many single women who gets attached too quickly, it’s time you put this advice to work in your life. Then, and only then, will you see the changes you want to see in your romantic endeavors.
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